LEARN TO COMPROMISE

…………………By Bishop Shin

            “John and Mary started out nicely and it was full of love and excitement. It felt like a match made in heaven. John was warm and kind. Mary was the luckiest lady alive. A few months into the relationship, it all started turning sour. John was easily irritated by almost everything Mary did. He found her clumsy, annoying and uncomfortable to be around.

What could have happened? Was John no longer in love with Mary?”

            Relationship, without a doubt is a lot of hard work. It involves two people from an entirely different background and with different training and upbringing. It can be very tedious to say the least. This is why relationship and dating is not for ‘small boys and girls’. It takes two matured minds who understand the requirements of a relationship.

            Like the story of John and Mary, a lot of relationships start and end this way. Most are not able to recover from it. They will then have to part ways. This is because after the fresh fog of love has been lifted after a few months, then who we really are takes over. How we were brought up and trained manifest and most people expect their partners to act in a certain way that suits their upbringing. This is a big mistake people make in their relationships.

            Never in any way expect your partner to act, talk, and walk or even do things in a way you like or prefer. For all you know, your partner also have their preferences and you may not be able to do theirs. So why force or expect them to act the way you want?

Relationships are beautiful when two different people learn to live together and enjoy the varieties they each have to offer. Learning to compromise is a very important virtue needed for the survival of any relationship. You may not like the way your partner walks, learn to compromise and accept it. Physical differences that comes from our ways of doing things should not separate two people.

Learn to compromise! Embrace these varieties your partner has to offer. Don’t get offended by them. In fact, if it’s something that you really don’t like, help them to change it gradually. Don’t force it. Don’t push it. Let your love for them cover their shortcomings and then help them to make the necessary changes so that they become the way you want them to be.

If you find their sense of fashion annoying, don’t flare up when you see them. Help them to change it. If you find her body unattractive, help her shape it up. Take her jogging. Take her through the needed exercises for her to get the attractive body you want instead of blaming her and going after other ladies.

Even twins act differently so it’s an error to expect your partner to think and act as you do which is impossible. If you want to build a strong relationship, then build this quality. Be a builder. Be an encourager. Be a source of comfort. Be accommodating. Be loving and caring. To do all that, you should learn to compromise because not everything in a relationship will go or be as you want. So you make do with what you have and enjoy each other’s company and love as you work on making the necessary changes to turn your partner into the ideal lady or guy as you always wanted.

©Bishop Shin

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