It is a common belief that men are hard hearted and
mostly unable to feel or show emotions. Right from childhood, little boys have
been taught that men don’t cry. It is a sign of weakness for a man to cry. These
boys grow up into men and they choose or refuse to show any sign of weakness or
emotions. They act like hard core criminals with no feelings.
Seldom
will you see a man crying. Even rarer is a man crying in public or when there
are people around unless it’s a funeral. This attitude and way of life in our
societies have led many to think men have little or no emotions. Women on the
hand are filled with emotions and they can cry and get upset or hurt over the
smallest thing.
This has
led to many men being abused and used in many relationships. Most men instead
of complaining or speaking out when they find something their partner did
offensive, they will not. They will rather bottle up their feelings and act
like all is well when they know very well that they are not happy about
something. They heard men don’t talk too much or complain. It’s very wrong!
Men,
just like women, also have feelings. In fact, a man has the same level of
feelings and emotions as a woman. If man was a rigid, emotionless being, then
it would be impossible for him to love. Thus, the Bible would never have told
men to love their wives when it knows man can never show feelings. Men have
feelings and can love greatly. In truth, a man can love and sacrifice more than
a woman can.
A quick
look at the life of Adam and Eve. Eve was deceived by the serpent and as a
result she lost her glory. Adam on the other hand was never deceived. He knew
exactly what was happening but he chose to eat the fruit and be like Eve
because of the great love he had for his wife. He sacrificed everything just to
be with his wife. That is the real nature of every man, to love and sacrifice.
Society and false teachings have corrupted
the inner nature of men. It has made men care-less, uncaring, emotionless and
unloving. It is seen as a sign of weakness if a man cries. It is seen as a bad
thing if a man talks about things that makes him unhappy. Men have been barred from
feeling and showing emotions. How then can the men show love to the women?
No
wonder we have many men who cannot commit in a relationship. Most men who have
been trained that way refuse to show emotions. They refuse to love and show
care.
To the ladies, treat a man the same
way you want him to treat you no matter how little it seems. If that smallest
thing can hurt your feelings, then be rest assured that the same thing will
hurt him as well. Men are not robots with metal hearts. If you would not like
it if a particular thing is done to you, then don’t do it to him and expect him
to understand you. Yes, the smallest things hurt men too. Most just ignore it
but that doesn’t mean he likes them.
Two people can build a happy relationship
if both will respect, love and treat each other the same way they would want to
be treated.
To the men, learn to talk when there’s
something you don’t like. If there’s something your partner did which offended
you, no matter how small, talk about it. Don’t keep all those hurts and pains
in you. Talk about them and free yourself. In that way, you will both enjoy
each other’s company.
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