STOP ASSUMING
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By Bishop Shin
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Nancy and John have been dating not long. One day Nancy saw the pictures of
different ladies on John’s phone and she got worried. “who are these ladies”?
“Is John cheating on me”? “Are there other ladies in his life that I don’t know
about”?
Nancy
kept asking a lot more questions since that day and before long, every day was
filled with more suspicions and eventually the relationship turned sour”.
One of the common
mistakes most couples and those in relationships make is to assume. Assumption
stems from the mind. The mind controls all the other parts of the body.
This
could be dangerous if the assumptions are severe. It leaves one restless with
lots of unanswered questions. Assumptions rob one of their peace. It doesn’t
solve anything in the long run. And in the end, just like the story of Nancy
and John, it will turn the relationship sour and eventually end it.
I have listened to some
people share their worries about what they think their partners are doing based
on something they have seen or heard. These people gradually start to lose
trust for the other and a relationship without trust is as good as dead.
Communication is the
most important thing in a relationship. The ability to talk about everything
and anything ensures that the right foundation is laid down for a successful
relationship. If you see or hear anything you are not happy or comfortable with
concerning your partner, the best person to ask is your partner. Stop assuming
things. Learn to talk and to ask questions about things that bother you, things
that can rob you of your peace and eventually cause you two to drift apart.
A lot of relationships
start dying this way, too many assumptions with less communication. Once
assumptions and suspicions set in, the partners become detectives as well.
Monitoring and collecting information as evidence to prove their assumptions.
You will only get yourself hurt and ruin the relationship.
If you find yourself in
any such situation that need clearing up, ask your partner all the questions
you have. Don’t assume anything. Don’t be suspicious of things. Ask and it
shall be given. This way, it will draw you both closer and you will enjoy a
peaceful, happy relationship devoid of assumptions and love.
“Ask and it shall be given, seek and
you shall find, knock and it shall be opened unto you
(Matthew
7:7)
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