Dating The Right Person... Written by Nana Kyereh

Marriage is like going to the market to buy garden egg . it may look very fresh and good but the inside may be the inhabitant for maggots..
( Date before marriage)
When you presume that everything is alright, you may end up eating maggots....
One thing is to date, another is to date the right person because dating the wrong person can be hurting and complicated...

*DATING WITH THE RIGHT PROCEDURE:*
∆ Friendship...
∆ Relationship..
∆ Dating = Courtship = Engagement.
∆ Marriage..
Each stage will make way for the next step, which will enhance your relationship. Do not overlook any stage...

*THE RIGHT MENTALITY BEFORE DATING:*
~ Date with purpose..
~ Date with love / true feelings..
~ Date with honest intention..
~ Date with vision..
* When there is no feelings, there is no need to date..
* Dating without true love is dead already..
* Without honest intention, dating becomes a child play..
* Dating without vision becomes a distraction.

*HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU'RE DATING THE RIGHT PERSON?*
√ Feelings are always mutual..
√ The intimacy is not about SEX but what you felt for each other..
√ He/She is always afraid to lose you..
√ He/She will always listen to your advice, also he will respect your opinion..
√ Your past will never be use against you..
√ Even when you don't have same vision, there will be respect and regards for each others vision and admirations..
√ You can predict his/her actions..
√ He/she will never hide things from you..
√ There is no room for unnecessary silence and malice...
√ The right person will manage your weakness.
√ The right person does not expect too much from you..
√ Care, Attention, Appreciation, Love and compatibility remains their bedrock.

WHO IS IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT? By Rev. Maxwell Makimi Wunangi

A great many saints today have pride of race, pride of face, and pride of grace - they are even proud they have been saved by grace! My friend, your salvation ought not to make you proud, it is not even something to brag about. It is something about which to glorify God, and it is something that should humble you. Aren't you ashamed of yourself that you have to be saved by grace because you are such a miserable sinner? I wish I had something to offer God for salvation, but I have nothing. Therefore, I must be saved by grace, and I cannot even boast of that.

Pride is that which is destroying the testimony of many Christians and has made them very ineffective for God. They go in for show, but the thing they are building is a big haystack. They are not building on the foundation of Christ with gold and silver and precious stones. Pride has a great many saints down for the count of ten; it has pinned the shoulders of many to the mat today.

What is pride? Pride of heart is the attitude of a life that declares its ability to live without God. We find in the Book of Obadiah that pride of heart had lifted up the nation of Edom just like Esau who had despised his birthright. Even in the home of Isaac, where there was plenty to eat, he liked that bowl of soup, and he liked it more than he liked his birthright. He didn't care for God at all. In despising that birthright, he despised God. And now Esau had become a great nation that had declared its ability to live without God.

"Thou that dwellest in the clefts of the rock, whose habitation is high; that saith in his heart, Who shall bring me down to the ground?" (Obadiah 1:3). They dwelt "in the clefts of the rock." They were living in great buildings which were hewn out of solid rock inside this great canyon and up and down the sides of it. They were perfectly secure - at least they thought they were. The Edomites had signed a declaration of independence. They had a false sense of security and had severed all relationship with God. They had seceded from the government of God. They had revolted and rebelled against Him.

Now what is God going to do in a case like this? "Though thou exalt thyself as the eagle, and though thou set thy nest among the stars, thence will I bring thee down, saith the Lord" (Obadiah 1:4). The eagle is used in Scripture as a symbol of deity. The Edomites were going to overthrow God as Satan had attempted to do, and they were going to become deity. They were going to handle the business that God was supposed to handle. "And though thou set thy nest among the stars" - this was the sin of Satan, for he sought to exalt his throne above the stars. God says, "Thence will I bring thee down."

How many people today are attempting to run their lives as if they were God? They feel that they don't need God, and they live without Him. The interesting thing is that when God made us He did not put a steering wheel on any of us. Why? Because He wants to guide our lives. He wants us to come to Him for salvation first, and then He wants to take charge of our lives. When you and I run our lives, we are in the place of God. We are in the driver's seat. We are the ones who are the captains of our own little ships or our own little planes, and we are going through the water or the air just to suit ourselves. That is pride, and anyone who reaches that position, if he continues in it, is committing a sin which is fatal because it means he will go into a lost eternity.

Shalom💚

IT TAKES MORE THAN JUST FEELINGS TO MAKE OUR MARRIAGES WORK !!! Written by Nana Kyereh

What makes our marriages work is not just what we feel for our partners but our commitment and maturity in our attitudes. Truth be told - We would have no marriage standing if it were feelings. We stay in marriages because we make a decision and a commitment to be with our partners.

Feelings come and go but our maturity and commitment remains. Stop lying to yourselves. We will always meet people better looking, well shaped and doing better than our partners but, we can't leave to be with them each time we meet them. Even sex can be better out there - We just learn to have the best sex with our partners.

We stay with our partners because we chose to make them the best there is and committed to being with them through thick and thin despite the pressure of getting "Better" out there. That is why I say "Cheating is greatly linked to immaturity".

Pressure to go for better is always there. Both from men and women but, that's where you see and separate a child from men and women from girls.

Fools will chase and try to have every good looking man/woman they see but committed and mature people stick to who they make a decision to stay with. What we lack in most marriages today is commitment.

WHAT A MAN NEEDS FROM A WOMAN!!! .................... By Bishop Shin

Men are simple beings in character yet complex in nature. They are easy to live with yet complex to understand. Most ladies complain all the time that men are unfaithful and ingrates. You can do everything for them yet they will still stab you in the back or leave you stranded in a relationship.
So then, what does a man need from a woman? How can a lady keep a man and both will be happy?

To understand the nature of a man, we have to go back to the creation of the first man, Adam. At this point, man was pure and possess the qualities God imbued in him.

  God created the man first before the woman. God put man in charge of the whole earth, to subdue it and rule it. God told man to copulate and increase in number. When there was trouble and God came down to ask about it, He asked Adam first.

Below are the most important needs of all men from a woman.

RESPECT HIM: Most ladies mistakenly assume the biggest need of a man is sex as such once they are giving sex, the man should be loyal. It's a wrong assumption. When God created the earth, He left it in the hands of Adam(man). Man was the leader/boss/owner of everything on the earth. As such it is the nature of every man to lead, to rule and to be in charge. It doesn't matter his size, stature, finances or educational level. He is still a man and that nature of ruling is still in him. Anything that makes a man feel less of himself will be greatly resisted. This is why men get desperate and frustrated easily when he lacks certain things like money. As a woman, never make your man feel less of a man. Even if you are the one doing everything for him, never make him feel inadequate. If you can't tolerate his present condition, let him go.  It's better than being with him and continuously making him feel less of a man. When he becomes self sufficient, he will leave. Make him feel special and loved as a man. He will always value you.

MAKE HIM FIRST: Adam, the man was created before the woman. When there was trouble in the garden, God came to ask Adam. One of man's nature is to come first in everything. As a woman, don't and never compare him to anyone. Don't value your friends and others more than your man. Don't place him on the same level with anyone. Not even your pastor should have preeminence over him. He is the head and should be treated as such. He is the first and the last in the family.

SATISFY HIM SEXUALLY: To the married, sex is a part of every man. For the purpose of procreation, a man, unless riddled with diseases and some accident, can produce till he dies. That is how men were created. Starving your man or using sex as a weapon against him is an unwise thing to do. Depriving him of sex is like depriving him of food. A hungry man is an angry man. A well fed man have no desire for food from outside. To a hungry man, even meat pie looks like a cake.

ADD VALUE TO HIS LIFE: After creation, God saw that everything was good but man was incomplete(he was alone). God created the woman to complete the man(a helpmeet). Men will always prefer a woman who adds value to them. That's their nature. Instead of being dependent on a man, give him a reason to get better. Motivate him. Encourage him. Give him plans and ideas. Help him build. Don't be a spectator in his life. Don't sit down and wait for him to go and bring you the good things. Don't be with him and yet he feels alone. Be there with him. A man will easily bond with a woman who makes him feel that he has a support and a helpmeet.

ATTRACT HIM: When Adam woke up from his sleep and saw Eve for the first time, he was mesmerized by what he saw. Eve instantly attracted him and Adam immediately fell in love. Men are easily moved by what they see. Men like attractive women. A woman should be able to capture a man with her physical outlook. Be neat and well dressed. Be attractive and presentable. The truth is, no matter how virtuous and awesome you are, if you are too shabby and not well kept, it will be difficult, if not impossible to attract a man. Always look good for your man. That's one way of keeping him.

Men are in different kinds and everyone have what pleases them but ALL men needs these 5 points listed above. Do them for your man and you will surely keep him forever.

YOU ARE A WOMAN NOT A SLAVE Written by Nana Kyereh

You are a woman and not a slave. You are the greatest and the sweetest gift GOD gave to life. Stop complaining about how you were used and dumped. No one can take advantage of you without your consent. The best way to learn is from other people's mistake in life. Its more costly and more painful to learn from your own mistakes in life.

The greatest mistake any woman can make in a relationship is to permanently put her life on hold because of love. Of course sacrificing is a must if you want a home. Compromising in a relationship is a two way traffic, always make sure you are not always at the loose end. Never loose yourself while searching for a soul mate in life. Both of you must come to a conclusion that favours the two you. Relationship is not a career and marriage is not a job. Never stop working because you are married. If your husband is super rich and asked you to stop working make sure you have direct access to his assets and cash. Life is full of ups and downs anything can happen to anybody at any points in life. A rich man can become broke and a very hard working man may loose his job. Change is the most constant thing in life.

Many women are living a painful matrimonial life today because they are stuck with a man who treat them like trash, because he knows they have no other means of livelihood apart from him. Decision making can be very difficult if you are 100% relying on a man for everything in life. It's ok to support your man to be successful, but that doesn't mean you should put your own life on permanent hold.

CHOOSE WHAT SUITS YOU

_Smith and Lara have been dating for just six months. Smith finds her very beautiful and a lovely lady but there is one problem he has: Lara is too expensive to keep. In the period of six months, he has almost spent all his savings. Now he is worried that as soon as he runs out of money, he will lose Lara._

Many young men keep complaining about the life style of ladies in today's society. Most of them claim the ladies are materialistic. If you don't have money, you can't get them. We have many ladies and gentlemen like that who only enter into a relationship for their own benefits.
These kind of people only date certain kind of people who fits their agenda and purpose. And to those ladies in this category, they prefer rich guys who can meet their needs.
As odd and bad as this may seem, it's perfectly normal and there's nothing wrong with it. We all as humans have preferences. Under normal circumstances, some ladies prefer fair guys over dark ones. Some prefer tall guys. Some like muscular guys, others prefer those with beards and a hairy body.

Men on the other hand also have their preferences. Some like thick and tall ladies. Others prefer only fair ladies whiles others will avoid fair ladies and choose a dark one. Most like women with big breasts or big bottoms with curves.
All these are normal because we are all different and unique in our own ways. God in His infinite wisdom also made humans of different types, shapes and sizes. So whether dark or fair, tall or short, thick or thin, hairy or hairless, there is someone out there who prefers them to the others.
It is in this same categorization that some ladies prefer rich guys over up and coming guys who are now trying to make it. That's their preference and you can't blame them.
The problem lies with the men who choose to have what they can't have or shouldn't have.

When you go to a boutique to buy shoes, you buy the one that fits you. Just because an extra large shoe in the corner is more beautiful doesn't mean you should buy that one. It won't fit your feet and it will be a waste of time, money and resources.

The same thing happens when you choose someone you shouldn't. If she prefers a rich guy and you are not rich, look for another lady whose preference is not a rich guy.
There are many ladies who fits what you need. Look for them and stop blaming all ladies, because even the guys also have their preferences.

Choose the person that suits you and you will enjoy your relationship. She may not be packaged as you expected but she will be what you need! Stay focused and choose well.

SERVE GOD NO MATTER WHAT

SERVE GOD NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS

JOB 1:9-11

9 So Satan answered the Lord and said, "Does Job fear God for nothing? 10 Have You not made a hedge around him, around his household, and around all that he has on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land. 11 But now, stretch out Your hand and touch all that he has, and he will surely curse You to Your face!" NKJV

    The devil thought that it was because God has blessed Job and is protecting him that was why Job was worshipping and serving God but although Job complained a lot, he still proved the devil wrong. He stayed faithful to God even when he lost everything in life. He stayed faithful even when he was in pain caused by the sickness the devil inflicted on him. Job remained faithful to God.

    That is how faithful we should be as Christians. In good or bad times, we should remain faithful to God and trust Him most. We should continue to serve in His vineyard and continue to do what we were created to do: to worship Him.

   

Dan 6:4-13

4 So the governors and satraps sought to find some charge against Daniel concerning the kingdom; but they could find no charge or fault, because he was faithful; nor was there any error or fault found in him. 5 Then these men said, "We shall not find any charge against this Daniel unless we find it against him concerning the law of his God."

6 So these governors and satraps thronged before the king, and said thus to him:"King Darius, live forever! 7 All the governors of the kingdom, the administrators and satraps, the counselors and advisors, have consulted together to establish a royal statute and to make a firm decree, that whoever petitions any god or man for thirty days, except you, O king, shall be cast into the den of lions. 8 Now, O king, establish the decree and sign the writing, so that it cannot be changed, according to the law of the Medes and Persians, which does not alter." 9 Therefore King Darius signed the written decree.

10 Now when Daniel knew that the writing was signed, he went home. And in his upper room, with his windows open toward Jerusalem, he knelt down on his knees three times that day, and prayed and gave thanks before his God, as was his custom since early days.

11 Then these men assembled and found Daniel praying and making supplication before his God. 12 And they went before the king, and spoke concerning the king's decree: "Have you not signed a decree that every man who petitions any god or man within thirty days, except you, O king, shall be cast into the den of lions?"

The king answered and said, "The thing is true, according to the law of the Medes and Persians, which does not alter."

13 So they answered and said before the king, "That Daniel, who is one of the captives* from Judah, does not show due regard for you, O king, or for the decree that you have signed, but makes his petition three times a day."  NKJV 

Daniel never stopped being faithful to God when he started facing crises. When the other leaders were against him serving God, he still served and prayed to God.

    In the end, both Job and Daniel were vindicated and glorified by God once again. 

    Another example is Paul. Even in prison, he still saw a big God he serves (Acts 21). Stephen, at the point of death was still worshipping God. The list can go on and on but all I want to say is, never give up in serving God (Isaiah 3:10)

    Bible records in 1 Corinthians 15:58 that our labor in Him will never be in vain. Our father in heaven sees everything and acknowledges our effort in Him and He is a faithful God who appreciates every good work done. At the appointed time, He will surely reward you for your service to Him. 1 Thessalonians 5:24 says He who called you is faithful, He will do it.