............................By Bishop Shin
There is a
saying that no one is perfect. It’s true as we are all making efforts to be our
very best for ourselves and the people around us in the society. One cannot
expect a hundred percent efficiency from people.
One of the
easiest ways to enjoy your relationship is to stop expecting a hundred percent
efficiency from your partner. We all have our weaknesses and shortcomings. All
these make us who we are and these differences make us unique and beautiful in
our own way.
However,
there are some behaviors or attitudes that must be avoided when it comes to
dating or going into a relationship with someone. These habits have been a
practice for a long period of time and have become a part of the individual.
Not only that, these habits are harmful and dangerous to the success of any
relationship.
Below is a
list of 4 kinds of people you must avoid when it comes to relationships.
1.
CHRONIC INFEDELITY: One of the most painful experience a
person can go through is when their partner cheats on them. As bad as it is the
first time, being a continuous affair can be dangerous for anyone in that
position. Someone who is always cheating needs to be avoided at all times.
Cheating is a sign of disrespect and lack of love towards your partner. One
time may have been a mistake but when it becomes a habit of the other person
always doing it and asking for forgiveness is something that anyone must avoid
for the sake of one’s peace and happiness. A relationship without peace or
happiness is not worth having.
2.
SECRETIVE: It’s normal and perfectly healthy to
have a few secrets as a human. However, in a relationship it should be an open
for both of you. No secrets. No hide and seek. If the other person is the
secretive type who hides their private life from you, then you should avoid
such. A relationship built on secret will soon fail. A friend at one time told
me of a new relationship he has gotten into but the lady wants the relationship
to be a secret. I just asked him why and he had no good reason from the lady. A
relationship started on secrecy will fail as quickly as it started. Avoid a
secretive person when it comes to relationships.
3.
NARCISSIST: A narcissist is someone who is
self-centered. These are people who love themselves more than anyone else. It’s
not a bad thing to love yourself but narcissist take it to the extreme. Everything
must be about them. They care more about themselves than anyone. Such people will
never sacrifice anything of theirs for you. Love is kind and it should be
willing to sacrifice. Sacrifice is a word that can’t be found in their
dictionary. Being in a relationship with someone like that will result in a one
sided-relationship where you will be the one always making efforts to make it
work and they will never do anything beyond them to help you when the need
arises. Beware of narcissists.
4.
DIFFERENT SEX DRIVE: Sex is
one topic a lot of people especially Christians don’t talk about when entering
a new relationship. They all want to look innocent and appear ‘angelic’. This
is a big mistake people make. As humans, we all have different sexual drives
and libido. Some have low libidos. Other have a moderate one and some have
heightened level of libido. Imagine the disaster awaiting to happen when
someone with a low libido marries someone with a high libido? The end result
will be catastrophic. Infidelity will definitely set in as one partner will be
starving the other. Note that there is nothing wrong with someone with a high
libido. A certain married man couldn’t stay at home during the weekends. He doesn’t
work on weekends but he can’t stay home. This is because his wife has a very
high libido and when given the chance she can have sex the whole day. This was
killing the man slowly as he couldn’t keep up with the stamina of his wife. He was
afraid of being at home with his own wife. So before you say ‘Yes’ to a relationship,
be sure of your sexual drive and that of the other person. You may think it’s
not important now, but you might regret it when you marry if you both have
different sexual drives.
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